Judgement. We are all guilty of it (no matter how hard we try). I am not here to preach to you about judging. I am here to tell you to please, think twice before you do.

Last Saturday night, my husband and I decided to have a last minute date night. As we walked into a local restaurant, I noticed a woman in the corner immediately turn her nose up at me. She was dressed in heels and a dress and I was in leggings and a T-shirt. I watched her lean in and whisper and then turn to her friend and point.

I normally do not care what people think of me. I never really have. However, this time was different. I was in leggings and a T-shirt because none of my clothes fit right now, thanks to PCOS and my fertility meds. I had on no makeup because I didn’t really want to be there. My husband begged me for hours to go so that I would get out of the house and stop thinking about this months failed cycle (depression from infertility is a real thing, guys).

Before you judge, point, and whisper, please remember that you have NO IDEA what is going on in someone else’s life. That girl wearing a T-shirt to dinner may be holding on by a thread. That girl with no makeup on at dinner may have cried it all off on the way here. Please remember this next time you judge someone based on their appearance.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” -Mother Teresa


  1. Jen Juneau Haupt · October 12, 2018

    I’m so glad you seem to realize this was a problem of the other patron and not you! You are strong and awesome!


  2. Lauren · October 12, 2018

    Some people live in such little worlds figuratively. They dont understand the hurt and pain like so many others do. They live in there small little bubble and cant fathom others heartbreaks. I’m so sorry for your first failed cycle. I’m on letrizol now for our 1st cycle. Good luck on your second darling. Keep your head up ❤ that thin string is stronger than you even realize.


  3. Tasha · October 15, 2018

    Absolutely! We have no idea what battles people are fighting and yet we are so quick to judge. Society as a whole needs to do better with having some empathy. I’m glad you got out of the house. That’s a huge hurdle. Sorry those people sucked. 😢


  4. Clare · November 8, 2018

    I agree! I try to imagine all the things that someone could be dealing with that are invisible to me before I judge. I only hope people can do the same with me.


  5. iamlivinginfreedom · November 9, 2018

    This brought tears to my eyes. We never know what struggles others are facing. I’m sorry you had to endure that. Just know that deep down she must be unhappy with herself if she felt the need to be so negative about a complete stranger.


  6. reachingthesun · November 12, 2018



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